Don’t Make These Two Mistakes if You Want to Get Back With Your Ex
July 10th, 2009. Published under Culture and Society. No Comments.
Why is it sometimes so difficult to win back an ex? No doubt you’ve tried your best to get your love back, but everything you’ve tried so far has ended in failure and now you’re desperate and frustrated.
There are actually two reasons why it’s so hard to win back an ex. First, when you’re still in love with someone who has called the relationship off, the balance of power is entirely in their favor.
The second point is that most people have no real idea what to do to successfully get back with someone they love and end up spending a great deal of time racing around doing all the wrong things.
Since your ex has the upper hand in this situation, it’s a mistake to try to chase after them; the power is entirely in their hands. They know it – and so do you if you’re being honest with yourself. An ex who knows you’ve been trying to get them back will often make you suffer for it, whether or not they’re actually willing to consider being with you again.
If you really want to win back an ex, there is one thing which has been proven time and again to be more effective than any other method. It’s also the hardest: keep your distance and your cool.
Some of you reading this may be doing so because you suspect that your partner is thinking about calling it quits and you want to be ready for your next move. When and if it happens, remain calm and let them go – regardless of how much you feel like screaming and pleading for them to stay.
Afterwards, try to occupy your time with other things to keep your mind off of your ex. Right now, the last thing you need to do is to dwell on the breakup or the possibility of reuniting with your ex.
Keep your distance. Don’t let yourself get caught up in their lives; if they should call you, be polite but let them know you have places to be and keep your conversation short.
Here’s a warning for you! Many people faced with trying to distance themselves from their exs simply can’t do it! They mistakenly believe that if they run around doing favors for their exs that their ex will see them as someone they need. They think they will be able to prove and show their exs how much they love them by being there for them!
This is entirely the wrong approach to take. The ex will either become sick of you being around all the time or see you as someone who they can take advantage of. What won’t happen is that they’ll take you back – this is a trap, so avoid it!
Keep your distance, play it cool and the balance of power will even out, perhaps even shifting to your side. You might just find your ex coming back to you. It’s tough, but it’s usually the only way to win back an ex.