Not Online Dating? You Should, 1 in 3 Women Put Out On 1st Date!
Widely Respected Scientific Study Reveals: Women Love Sex This statistic was derived in a 2007 study by Paige M. Padgett, PhD. while she was a research associate at the University Of Texas School Of Public Health. Padgett’s study, entitled “Personal Safety and Sexual Safety for Women Using Online Personal Ads” was published in the widely respected scientific journal, Research & Social Policy, a journal of the National Sexuality Research Center.
Padgett’s study involved 740 women who had placed online ads seeking men. The results of the study were quite compelling. Padgett found that over 30% of the women engaged in sex on the 1st date. And more surprising, of those women that had sex, 77% reported not using a condom during 1st date sex.
Virtual Intimacy Theory Padgett’s conclusion was not that these women are merely sluts. Rather she discovered that women who would otherwise be cautious may engage in unprotected sex because they are lulled into a sense of virtual intimacy.
Dr. Padgett determined that “virtual intimacy” arose as a by-product of the frequent exchanges between the women and the men they had sex with on the first date. Before meeting face-to-face, the women exchanged information through e-mail and telephone calls about their history, likes & dislikes, and even their sexual preferences.
It was this exchange, says Padgett that fostered the “virtual intimacy”. Women developed a sense that a relationship already existed (even if it didn’t) which encouraged sexual intimacy at a faster rate than ordinary.
So What Does This Mean For Men? The essential message for guys: Begin Online Dating Today! It’s less expensive than going to bars and clubs and you will have more success and have sex on 1st dates more often. But definitely use protection.
My View of Padgett & Her Conclusions: She interprets the results of the study incorrectly. She is overly paternalistic and portrays women as weak, pathetic and stupid. They are not. Furthermore, she views men as predators who trick women and lull them into a sense of “virtual intimacy”. Bullshit!!
Let’s Use A Little Common Sense To Distill The Padgett’s Study. Give women the credit they deserve: They know what they want. Women are looking for attractive mates who meet their dating qualifications. They select one or more candidates from the innumerable men that email them. Lastly, they query the candidates to determine if the man in question meets their dating qualifications. If so, it’s sexy time!
If you scrutinize the data you’ll see what’s really occurring here. The women in Dr. Padgett’s study are the ones speeding up the sexual relationship. The women in her study (and all online women daters) try to gather as much info about their potential mates as possible. And they do all of this info aggregation before meeting face-to-face, by email or over the telephone.
Why? To allow themselves to engage in sexual congress as soon as possible. Once a woman convinces herself that a man meets her criteria she will sleep with him. And in every case in Padgett’s study, the women had already decided through email and telephone conversations that the particular man in question met her criteria or at least enough of the criteria to warrant sex!
Using Padgett’s Study To Your Advantage. In sum, women love sex just as much as you do. However, the most important piece of information that I’ve learned from my online dating experiences which is supported by Padgett’s research: Women need to convince themselves that you meet their dating criteria and that you are a Quality Guy.
A basic misunderstanding of this factor causes so many men to shoot themselves in the foot at this point. They choose to believe that need one or a combination of the following: (a) fame; (b) money; or (c) power to be a dating success. This is just plain false. The secret to my online dating prowess: Being successful with women online means quite simply, not disqualifying yourself. Women have all kinds of questions, yes. Women have dating criteria, yes.
However, women only require that you reply to their questions or hold yourself out in fairly open manner in order for them to say to themselves, “Hey this gentleman seems normal, he’s available, and he’s mine.” At this point, they’ll grant themselves permission to have sex with you.
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